Getting Started with Partner Spanking
Okay, so this is a bit different from my usual posts, but hey, sharing experiences is what I do. We decided, my partner and I, to explore spanking. Wasn’t something we just jumped into, mind you. Took some talking first.
We sat down one evening, just chatting, and the idea came up. Felt a bit awkward at first, not gonna lie. But we pushed through that. The main thing we focused on was setting ground rules. Like, really clear rules. What was okay, what was definitely not okay. We agreed on using a ‘safe word’, something totally random that we wouldn’t say normally, so if things got too intense or uncomfortable for either of us, we could stop immediately, no questions asked. That felt super important.
We also talked about intensity. Decided to start really light. No tools or anything fancy, just hands. Keep it simple, figure out what actually feels good, you know? It’s easy to get carried away with ideas you see somewhere, but reality can be different. So, slow and steady was the plan. Communication was key – agreeing to check in with each other during, asking ‘you okay?’ or ‘how’s this?’, that sort of thing.
The Actual Trying-It-Out Bit
So, we picked a time when we were relaxed, no stress from work or anything. Made sure the mood was right. We started off slow, like we planned. Lots of checking in. It was… interesting. Different from what I maybe expected. Less about the sting itself and more about the trust, the giving and receiving of control, I guess.
There were moments it felt a bit clumsy, trying to find a rhythm or the right pressure. We laughed a couple of times, which actually helped keep it from feeling too serious or scary. We kept the first time pretty short. Didn’t want to overdo it.
- Communication: Kept talking, non-verbal cues too.
- Pacing: Started gentle, didn’t rush.
- Focus: More on the connection than just the physical act.
Afterwards and Thinking Back
After we stopped, the agreed-upon ‘aftercare’ was basically just cuddling, talking softly, making sure we were both feeling good, emotionally and physically. That part felt just as important as the spanking itself. Reconnecting, making sure everything was truly okay between us.
Looking back, the biggest thing was the communication beforehand and the trust. Without that, I don’t think it would have worked or felt safe. It wasn’t some wild, crazy thing like you might imagine. For us, it was quieter, more about exploring boundaries together. Will we do it again? Maybe. But the main takeaway was learning more about each other and how vital talking and trusting is, especially when you’re trying something new like this. It’s all about what works for the specific people involved, not some blueprint.
